I thought about how I would answer the question.
Men have to do a little better. A few of us, not a lot. But enough of us have to do a lot better. We have to stop being so shocked when women tell us they have been harassed or assaulted. It is happening all the time, all around us, and we have to stop pretending like it is not. If we choose to do nothing about it, and if we hide behind nonsensical movements like #NotAllMen. Then we have to accept that we are a part of the problem.
How do we do a little better?
Advice like “listen to women” is too vague and frankly, too easy. Instead, we should be a part of building stronger systems of prevention and accountability in our communities.
Call out friends or coworkers who say and do things that you wouldn’t want to be said or done to your wife, girlfriend, sister, mother, aunt, or grandmother. Start with “Shut up.” and escalate accordingly.
Get off the sidelines. Be the change. Do better.